Thursday, July 30, 2009

According to Merriam Webster - yo yo -adj. a condition or situation marked by regular fluctuations from one extreme to another.
Bingo! That's me - one minute I'm happily thinking of the adventure that's ahead, making plans, searching the internet for what could possibly become our new, dream home, thinking about experiencing fall colors right outside my door, maybe even my first white Christmas.
The next I'm faced with the very worst of it all - saying good bye. Last week I went to the local Farmer's market for the last time. Tuesday I had my last haircut with the best stylist ever. Soon I'll need to get an oil change and a safety check from the guys that have kept me on the road and never, ever treated me like a dumb girl when I described a noise, rattle or squeak to them. Each of these has caused me to bite my lip a little and hold back a tear.
But now I've come to the part where lip biting doesn't work. Rats! Last night, I met with my quilting pals at the local quilt shop. I have had a standing Wednesday night date with them for almost 10 years - from nearly the beginning of my quilting career. Oh, I didn't want to go. I wanted to just hide from it all and pretend that I didn't really have to say good bye.
But I was brave, I just got in the truck and drove. I only sat in the parking lot for a moment, took a deep breath and went inside. They had planned a little send off, complete with potluck and presents, too. Including an address book all filled out with addresses, emails and phone numbers - like I wouldn't know where to find them on a Wednesday night.
At the end of the night, I was so glad that I went. Even with a few tears sprinkled in here and there it was just another normal Wednesday night with good friends, good food and a lot of laughs. Even a little sewing got done.
Tonight I have a dinner date with some gals I've known from back when I used to wear pantyhose and pinchy shoes to work every day. Probably a few more tears and a lot more laughs are in store.
When the evening is over, it will be back to my little basket of yo yo makin's. The good byes are hard but the friendships are long. They won't end any time soon.

30 comments:

Kim said...

Now you've gone and made me cry! This letting go and moving on is serious stuff. Sure makes you aware of all the blessings you have and will carry forward with you. :o)

Mad Red Hare said...

I know too well how hard it is to say goodbye. It has been 22 years since I made my big move and the memories are still fresh in my mind. Good luck, cherish the memories!

Guðrún said...

I almost got tears in my eyes reading this, poor Libby, be brave!

sewprimitive karen said...

Oh, Libby, that is so sad!! You've gotta keep thinking of those fall leaves and snowfalls and icicles.

Colleen said...

Goodbyes are so hard. Hang in there, Libby :o)

Quilt Hollow said...

I see me in this post. Many moves mean many friends abandoned (well you know what I mean). It hurts and there is no easy way about it for sure. You'll always have them in thoughts, memories or an ordinary day's occurence spark the friendship in thought....thankfully phone calls, emails and perhaps trips to see one another too!

Cathi said...

I would like to say, "I know how you feel", but I don't because I have lived in the same house for 25 years. I've never had to leave dear friends. But I have had to say goodbye to friends that have left me. And I've also welcomed people that have become new, very good friends. I am sure you will be welcomed just as much as you will be missed.

The Quilt Buddy said...

Oh Libby! I know how you feel! I go through the emotional good-byes every 3 years when we move. (You remember from the military days.)

I cried at everything- the last playgroup, last day of school, last MOPS meeting, last haircut, last quilt guild meeting. I was a BIG ball of mess on the day that we moved!

You will always remember your true friends and you will love your new adventure! Besides, we will all be here!

quiltmom said...

Libby,
What nice memories that you will take with you when you move- Change is often hard but I am sure that you will find another group of quilters to connect with and develop even more lasting friendships. In between times, you will continue to maintain the treasured friendships through the phone, skype and email. Hang in there Libby- the transition times are often the hardest- We are still out here in blogland to support you and help you as you start down your new path.
Warmest regards,
Anna

GARI said...

I guess everyone felt that pang when we read your post. I moved 3 years ago and even though we didn't move so far away, those daily, weekly and even monthly get togethers just don't happen anymore: miss them. But others come along to fill the void and become important, too.

Beth said...

Aw gosh darn I bet it's hard for you. But look at it as a new adventure, and you can always come back to California! I am happy I got to meet you at Road, and I *still* have that cute little swap quilt you made for me hanging in my sewing room, I'll never forget how I squealed when I was presented with a Libby quilt! Good luck to you, and keep in touch ok?

Catherine said...

Oh, Libby -- I feel so for you! It's such a huge move and there are so many goodbyes -- but at least now, in this technology-driven world in which we live, it's so much easier to stay in touch with friends no matter how far we've moved.

BabYpose said...

Left me moistured eyes. Cherish the memories, all the best.

Lindah said...

I can so empathize with you, Libby!
I've got another big move coming up in a couple years, too.
I'm already telling myself: old friends and new friends; old memories and new adventures...what could be better!
Hang in there! and keep us posted, please.

Kathie said...

hopefully one of them has a laptop and you can skpe with your group each week, how fun would that be?
or if you have a MAC you can do the video chat thing!
Kathie

yellowfarmhouse said...

Oh Libby - goodbyes are hard and I'm so glad that you went to meet your quilting buds and have a special night together. You've got a lot to look forward to but that doesn't make the goodbyes any easier. Hang in there sister.

Hugs - Karen

The Calico Cat said...

Just think about how lucky you are to have thise quilty & pinch toe friends to say good bye to! (That will make it a "bit" easier.)

Judy said...

I knew you would miss that Wednesday night group a lot. It's not done in loads of places...heck I tried to describe it to my LQS and they thought I was nuts.

I would miss my perfect honest great mechanic! Not so much my hair girl.

Find you quild when you get there and join if only for one year. Ask about bee's willing to take any newcomers and keep looking until you find your place. I bet seeing those fall will help ease some of what you are feeling when they come around the

QuiltedSimple said...

Oh how sad! But know they will always be your friends, and there is room in your heart to make new friends wherever you land.
Kris

Quilter Kathy said...

That really must be hard on you. But it is a sign of a life well lived that you have so many strong connections there. They will just have to read your blog to keep up to date with you now!

Milah said...

What an emotional time for you! I can see your feelings are all over the place. Keep your chin up, you have a great adventure ahead of you.
Blessings!

Candace said...

I have tears in my eyes for you, Libby. But I know on the other side of this you will forge ahead, make new friends, discover new interests, a different way of living - and 4 distinct seasons! What an adventure! I'm so proud of how you've made all this happen in such a very short time - and so efficiently! Know that your faithful friends in blogland will be waiting to see what fun you will have in your new home - and we're there for you!
Cheers!

Carin said...

Moving is difficult but it will be a grand new adventure for you. HUGS!

MARCIE said...

This is the difficult time! Soon you will be moving on and new excitement begins! And don't those yo-yos travel well!

Stephanie D. said...

It's hard saying goodbye over and over again. But then, it would be worse not having anyone to say goodbye to.

Thank goodness for the internet.

Texan said...

I have moved so many times in my life I guess I kind of expect it now. I can't really relate to staying in one place for a very long time. I am sure its very hard when you have been in one place as you have. It will be a adventure being in a new place and exciting :O)... though you will miss your old friends I have no doubt you will make new quilting friends and enjoy your new home :O)... I have a sneaking feeling your glass is always half full Ms Libby...not half empty :O)...no matter where you are!

Oh its me Rabbitstitchings, I managed to get a new blog up... I completely messed up my old one!oops.. http://texan.blogspot.com/

Colleen formerly of South Africa said...

Well I shed a few tears for you.... so hard to leave good memories.

gwen said...

So many things happened since I last read your blog! You are moving east!
I expect the most difficult part is the actual move but there are still so many things to do before and after. I am sending you some courage to get it all done. Take care.
P.S. your punch needle is very cute!

Rosemary said...

aw so sad! When is the move?

Caron said...

I have to laugh whenever I see yo-yo's for quilting. Back in the 1980's when I was writing my first book, everything was done via snail mail. I kept getting polaride photos mailed to be by a guy named Ditler. He said he was a quilter, and all he made were yo-yo quilts. He would enclose a few yo-yo's with every letter. By the end of the 80's I might have had enough of those to make my own quilt!